So it has officially been 16 months since my last relaxer, and 14 since my last real hair cut, I have since trimmed off most of my relaxed ends, but that was done at home too. Since becoming a DIY’er I forgot how much I love to have someone else do my hair. So this week with the last of my birthday money, I splurged, I went out and go a conditioning treatment and style from a hair salon. Now while I cannot see myself spending that kind of money for something I can do at home often it sure was nice to have someone else deal with my hair for awhile.
So here is the update . .
We are getting somewhere, I started using my tattoo as a measurement months ago and I finally covered the second star on my tattoo a major accomplishment, 15 months ago I was just about neck length and so when I start to think I am not making progress I look back and make myself see the progress
My bra is covering the second star in the 1st picture but that is probably a good 2 and a 1/2 inches of growth in order to cover it.
This week it reminded me how much I love the versatility of my natural hair, it can go from this
In well with some hardship and 4 hours of straightening. . . ( or only 1 and a half by a professional)
This week has made me the most happy that I made the decision to go natural, when the hairdresser said. . your hair is really healthy! She didn’t make any comments about my “self cut” and she wanted to know all about my DIY braids and protective styles.
Before starting this journey everytime I would go to the hair salon they would comment on the damage of my hair or the uneven ends or something. . I was expecting the uneven ends comment since I have been freely chopping off my straight locks for a few months now, but no she was impressed with the state of my hair, she could tell it hadn’t been cut in a while but that was the only comment she made.
So onward and upward we go, as the fro continues to grow where it will stop, we never know. ..
So for a hair blog I feel like I have been neglecting to tell you about my hair for awhile now! Well it is still there, it has not been chopped off or harmed in any way. I have also not done any new protective styles, for oh a few months now
I think when the last twists only lasted about a week I decided it was time to take a break from them for awhile. And to be honest I have been loving my hair lately. I have been rocking the wash and go most of the time like it ain’t no bodies business.
I tried my first fishtail braid a couple of weeks ago and I loved it! It is actually a super easy braid, and that is coming from someone who still hasn’t mastered how to to a frenchbraid on myself yet. It is easy it holds all my hair out of my face and looks much more complicated than it is. And as an added bonus that just means that my hair is finally long enough to do braids like this as a style.
Wash and go 1,2 and 3! The second two pictures come from the same day, it was the day Mr. and I signed on our first house together and picked out his tux for the wedding! Very exciting day! And my hair was large and wonderful! I love the volume and body that each wash and go brings and I can normally get two to three days of wear out of it.
This is a twist out on a three day old wash and go! Mr. suprised me with a concert of one of my favorite bands this night, i loved him for it and I loved my hair and shirt that night! Really we were just rocking it that evening!
This picture has nothing to do with my hair, except for the fact that I rocked a messy bun that day, my hair is very insignificant in this picture! But I love it! I was feeling sassy and wanted to show up my nails and my ring! because really who doesn’t. But I thought this was a fun way to do just that.
So there it is. . my hair for the last month. I am getting the itch to straighten it and check the length so maybe at next wash day we will see how we are coming. Three more months till my hair’s big day. .. my wedding, so I guess there is more to that day than my hair. But just barely right?!
Before we begin, I got my engagement pictures back . .. I will share one ff my favorites, as a sneak peak! 🙂
So there I was going along loving my crochet braids when I made the terrible decision of passing out after a party with my hair all a mess. I woke up the next morning to a big mat of hair and a few strands falling out. My hair had been braided for two months at this point and the new growth was definitely starting to show ,the ends of my braids at my nap had began to come out leaving some natural hair exposed that was beginning to tangle. So as a result on Saturday morning, after our Hannukah party, before our Christmas party that night, there I was taking down my hair at 10 am.
I had looked up the methods for taking down crochet braids but in my precarious state of my braids I was not comfortable taking scissors near my head. So I simply began taking the braids out from the base hoping the braid hair would fall out as I went. For the most part this was successful but there was some left over holding on even when all the braids were gone. I just jumped in the shower to remove the rest of the hair. After 2 months of only being washed in braids my hair loved the shower. I used shampoo, which I normally don’t because there was some serious build up from the moisturizer I had been applying and then conditioned and deep conditioned.
I t-shirt dried for 30 minutes and then began the detangling process. . the few tangles I mentioned earlier, turned out to be a full on dread at this point and even with soaking them in moisturizer it was difficult to remove. But successfully detangled my hair in around 45 minutes and placed it in multiple twists as I went to keep it separated.
After this much time in braids I was curious to see my new growth. .. or lack there of( but hopefully not) So I blew out and straightened my hair. I tried blow drying my hair in the twists I used to dentagle my hair and the results we a mixed bag. I feel that in the future I will be able to do this successfully and achieve a nice curled look but for the purposes today I am not sold.But then I went to work straightening my hair, I applied tresseme heat protectant as I went. I have not had this much natural hair in probably 6 years and I forgot what a project it is to straighten. I did not give myself enough time before I had to be somewhere so it was a half assed straightening job but it did the trick.
Length Check time. . conveniently I was wearing the same bra as I was in my August length check so it is easier to see the difference. . there is growth, slowly but surely progress is happening, and that is all I can ask right?
I will leave you with some pictures, From top to bottom, Length Check – 8-10-14, Length Check 12-13-14, bang check 12-13-14. Christmas party selfie!
Day 1 through 4 of my wash n go went AWESOME. I was able to wear my hair down for 3 of the days in slightly different variations. I didn’t notice a huge loss of moisture in my hair I did moisturize and seal in the middle of the week, using a mixture of coconut oil and aragon oil, and my Cantu Shea Butter moisturizer.
On the fifth day I discovered something that made me so happy, at 10 months post relaxer I have retained enough length to o a SOCK BUN! My roommates for the last two years have done many styles utilizing the sock bun, from the classic to using them to make curls and I have looked on with envy as my hair grew from his BC state to become long enough. Every couple of months I would try again and fail, but this time, on the 5th day of my wash n go, I succeeded! It is still little, and I had to work to completely cover the sock, but it is there, my first sock bun.
This seems like both a style and length accomplishment for me!
Well that was my week, short sweet and to the point.
I hope everyone has been as successful and had a wonderful weekend.
Tomorrow is a teacher work day, break from the children! Woo hoo, but meetings all day, I think that might be worse than children.
This week I reached what I consider a major milestone with this blog, some may consider it small but it means the world to me. I reached 20 followers this week! So to all of you out there reading my ramblings THANK YOU so much! I started this blog because my boyfriend was sick of hearing about my hair. Little did he know that then I would just talk about my hair blog ALL the time. So I began writing and thought that no one would care about my ever-changing do and all the random things I try with my hair. So thank you again for finding me at least some what interesting and keeping me accountable to this journey and promise that I made to myself.
This month I am at 39 weeks post relaxer or 9 months. I have not relaxed my hair since January, and that was even by accident. I bought this product that claimed it was not a relaxer and before I read the ingredients I applied it ( mistake numbero uno). So then as I was waiting with it on my head I started looking up reviews, and found that many women had done the same thing. That was when I learned the first lesson of my hair journey, ALWAYs read the ingredients.
I have learned many more lessons throughout these nine months, one of which is unfortunately not been patience! I am still working on that. But I have learned how to be much more creative than I ever was with my relaxed hair, partly by choice partly because of necessity as the curls get crazier, the hair styles get more creative. I have learned that I don’t need a hair stylist to do some of the styles I have always dreamed of, my favorite of which has been Marley twists which I have had in for the last 3 weeks and I hope to keep in for 8 weeks total, if I can keep my addictive ways at bay.
I have learned that kitchen supplies are your hairs best friend and I have been a consistent user or coconut oil, olive oil, eggs, and my new favorite apple cider vinegar. My boyfriend affectionately calls my weekly pre-poo “Salad hair” because of all the kitchen supplies that go on my head.
But most of all I have learned that I enjoy sharing my journey with you all, and reading about yours and the things that we all struggle through and the things that you guys have mastered and I can learn from you. I hope you can learn something from me, or at least be amused by my journey. Which may even be better in the long run.
Well thank you again all 20 of you out there! Have a great week
I was scrolling on my Instagram when I came across this DM to the texlaxed page, I am pretty sure I have addressed this issue in our community before but this post got me all worked up about it again, so here I am.
Seriously people why do the women in our community insist on making these dividing lines based on HAIR. We are all trying to match what we feel inside, whether being confident means having your natural hair, relaxed hair, wearing wigs or braids, why does that matter? We are all a part of a much more important community than how we choose to style our hair and that is what should matter. You shouldn’t be walking down the street, and think ” oh that nappy headed girl doesn’t take care of herself” Or “Oh that girl with the relaxer is out of touch with her true self.” None of us have the right to make those judgements. Healthy hair is healthy hair, no matter how you achieve it, natural hair that is not taken care of is not any more healthy than relaxed hair.
Everyone can be beautiful whatever that means for their hair, we should promote taking care of our hair. And a woman that relaxes her hair is in no way trying to hide her heritage or her culture, come on people the fact that she has straight hair doesn’t make her any less black and a woman rocking her natural hair isn’t any more in touch with her culture, because of her hair. We are trying to be ourselves no matter how we express that.
It is time to build each other up, remember that we are all after the same thing, healthy hair that makes us feel beautiful. So even if you don’t agree with relaxing your hair, or if you are against the natural hair movement. Get over it. It is not your hair, you may be relaxed for years and then go natural, you may be natural for years and decide one day you want to straighten your hair and then we are all in the same boat. Worry about your own hair, and support the women of our community no matter their hair.
We are all beautiful, and don’t you let anyone tell you otherwise.
I mentioned Apple Cider Vinegar was my new found super hero in a previous post, and I am here to follow up on that. And let me just tell you, it is more true now than ever!
I have found new uses for this miracle stuff that have nothing to do with my hair. I am still using it to cleanse my scalp when I have my braids in, it works wonders for the itching and dryness I feel when I haven’t washed my hair well with the braids in. If you haven’t seen the method for that just look at this post it will give you some info on how to use this for a scalp cleanser ( https://myhairenvy.wordpress.com/2014/07/ ). But since then I have added many uses for it, This first discovery I had was that it works as a great natural face wash. I have never really been consistent with washing my face I didn’t have a huge acne problem as a teen and just never got into the habit. But I thought I would give it a try, some diluted ACV and warm water has done wonders for my skin without any of the additives that are in face washes. Keeping with the skin uses after a trip to water world, my Bf was not friends with the sun and we discovered that it can be used to relieve sunburn.
I have used to clean my counters, my carpets and most recently my hard wood floors. It gets the stains out it gets rid of all sorts of smells. My house always smells like cat. And with a diluted ( my standard is 1/3 ACV 2/3 Water) mixture all of that is gone. I
I have been reading up on the benefits of drinking ACV and I haven’t quite gotten myself to try that yet. If the smell covers up all of those things, now you want me to put that down my throat? I don’t know about that. But it has made me a believer in all other aspects so maybe one day you will come across the ACV cures my ill’s post on here. We will see. But for now my household has become a ACV haven and it has replaced many things that cost much more money than a simple jar of ACV for all of it. Give it a try, see what you think and if you discover any other uses for it and post them on here and I will share them!
It is time, I once again say goodbye to my straightener. During the first 6 or so months of my stretch, sorry my transition, ( still getting used to to it being a transition) I was really good about not applying direct heat to my hair, and I saw amazing growth and length retention. Then I hit about 7 months post relaxer and I started to get anxious with my hair and the two different textures, they weren’t blending as well as they were in the past, I could no longer wear a wash-n-go and look good. The styles that look good during a transition are still something I am mastering, ok trying not mastering. So I started saying oh I will straighten my hair once a month, and then one month it went to two weeks and my progress with my hair has definitely suffered because of it. So ladies and gentlemen ( Can’t exlude any rouge guys reading this out there) my straightener is going back in the closet. . . until halloween. I will not be blow drying either,. .. Air Dry, Air Dry, Air Dry!
I am thinking I am going to have to get much more creative with my styles in order to keep myself happy during this stretch with no heat. But in good news my hair is finally ” bun-able” It has been able to make a bun for awhile now, but they didn’t look intentional, they looked like a “bloop” as my boyfriend would put it. And so I am finding the love of buns and have been rocking one all week. I am hoping to master the two strand twist, and twist out soon, but I haven’t figured out how to get my relaxed ends to hold those twists. Updates to follow if I find a successful method, or if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them.
Also I have submitted my story to http://www.justgrowalready.com So keep your eyes open for me to appear on Jen’s blog. I am excited to be ” blog famous” because in my world Jen and Just Grow already is FAME! I love her!!
Hope you all are having a wonderful week, my students returned to school this week, so I am sure i will start to share stories as the weeks go on.
This post is going to be short and sweet. But I think the decision has been made, the curls have it, I think I am going to a long term transition, no longer just a long stretch of relaxers, the more my hair grows the more I love the curl. I also love the versatility of my natural hair, I can style it in many different levels of curls from bantu knot outs( which I have no mastered yet), braid outs, flat twists( my favorite), and flex rods ( my up and coming favorite), but I also can occasionally straighten my hair to get that feeling I know and love. So now to try and maintain this go get-um attitude through the next year or so. I hope I can do it. This week I again got caught in the rain and which led to an impromptu wash day earlier than I had planned.
So saturday I washed, deep conditioned and air dried my hair in pig tails. This air drying method helps keep the new growth stretched while letting the rest curl naturally. I then applied my flex rod set on air dried hair. I bought and tried out the cantu hair shaping pomade and I love it. I tried the ringlet form for the flex rods, so they hung more up and down instead of against my head and this pomade gave my hair just enough hold for the curls to bouncy but not falls.
I am loving this style, its easy and keeps my hands out of my hair al day, I am going to try the ” mini” pinappling method tonight to see if I can keep these curls up, will let you know how it goes.