Do whatever you want!

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This has to be my motto, as I begin to search fora new protective style once again! The more I work through this journey I am realizing that my hair THRIVES in a protective style.  I retained more length in my twists than at any other time and this was with minimal moisture over those 6 weeks. My hair came out of that still soft and manageable with almost an inch of new growth.

So the search begins . .. what to do next, I am also considering what style I want my hair to be in for my engagement photos. . . oh ya last weekend, I GOT ENGAGED! So along with all of my hair rambelings, and teacher rantings, may quickly become a dumping place for all things wedding! I am so excited it will be in 10m months on 8.7.15 at the most gorgeous little chapel. But that is besides the point. .

As I have been searching for a style that will both protect my hair and create a versatile style for the upcoming pictures and winter months, I discovered crochet braids, a style that in my limited knowledge I had never heard of. But I am more than inspired and with my roommates help I am thinking I am going to dive into the crochet braid world soon.

As much as I change my hair, the more people give me the look instead of complimenting my hair style changes, I am still convinced, ” it is my hair I will do what I want.” Whether this means a new style every month, relaxing, Big Chopping continue to transition. It is a top my head and therefore it is my decision. That goes for you as well.

So start thinking of some good natural hair styles for weddings. . . that will get to be my project for a few months.

Have a wonderful tuesday.

Love your do and grow that fro

❤ Kelsi Rae

It’s a bird, It’s a plane. . . It’s Apple Cider Vinegar!

I had a moment of crisis last week, my week old Senegalese twists started to itch, and when I say itch I mean within an hour I thought I was going to itch through my skull. I was so close to ripping out my combined 7-10 hours of work off my head just to get to my scalp and so that I could stop this itching. 

Instead of destroying my beloved twists I turned to my trusty girls on youtube and found that this is a common problem, and we did have a hero to solve our problems! APPLE CIDER VINEGAR! So I ran out to the store bought a spray bottle and a trusty thing of this supposed super hero. Still skeptical about how this would work and how the smell would linger in my hair. I mixed 30 % apple cider vinegar and 70% water into my spray bottle. I then took each section of my hair and sprayed my scalp with this mixture  until it was drenched. Once my scalp was drenched I took a wash cloth and ran my finger along each part between my twists. It was INSTANT refreshment! After I had cleaned my scalp I went back and cleansed it with water to rinse the vinegar. I felt like a new woman. So I am a believer, Apple Cider Vinegar is my hero. It saved my hair style and my hard work. 

Since then I have gone through this same process twice, about once a week and my scalp has been itch free and happy! I have since become entranced with all the other things my super hero could fix, it turns out that it is more than just a hair hero, you can use it to whiten your teeth, wash your face to solve acne, clean your house with it, get rid of fleas off your pet and even more. I am so far just trying the tried and true scalp cleaning method, and giving the face washing a try, my face has been breaking out lately and I am going to see if this can solve this problem as well. So for any of you out there with dandruff or itchy scalp problems, even relaxed girls, and girls that don’t have their hair in braids, give ACV a try, it is a cheap and all natural solution that I have found to be quite refreshing. 

To end this post I will show off some of my looks from this past week, I went back to grad classes this week after two weeks off so my hair and outfits reflect my teacher style more. 

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Have a wonderful week. 

Love your do and grow that Fro 

❤ Kelsi Rae 

Dear #DearWhiteBoyfriend

WARNING, this post has NOTHING to do with hair, What? I know, right? But here it is. 

So my boyfriend, yes my white boyfriend and I have an ongoing joke about the #DearWhiteBoyfriend, whenever he does something that could have been insensitive we use this # to let him know. Don’t get me wrong, he is not insensitive and we are doing this in a completely joking way , but there are people out there that actually use this # in a serious manner and that is more what I want to talk about here. So my boyfriend is honestly just unaware of how some of the things he says could be viewed as insensitive to his “WOC” girlfriend, this insensitivity happens very rarely and is never something that upsets me. So when I first discovered the buzz feed article completely dedicated the #dearwhiteboyfriend posts I was astonished. Mostly because these women think that they somehow have the right to use this kind of language, I understand that their boyfriends are one white and two don’t understand some of the WOC issues but that doesn’t give us the right to use their caucasionness against them. 

Race is not something that has come into my relationship, this time around. In the past I have had boyfriends, most of my boyfriends have been white, that were just blatently insensitive about things, and I often got comments like ” But what, you don’t love fried chicken and grape koolaid” or ” I am dating the most white black girl ever” Both of these things were hurtful and over time wore on those relationships, but if I would have turned around and created a social media outlet about these occurrences I would simply have been turning the racism back on them. Why do these women stay with these men and complain about them on twitter, but don’t take the time to educate them about why these things are hurtful to WOC. I try to assume positive intentions ( there is my teacher talk coming out again) and by assuming positive intentions I am going to assume that my boyfriend, did not mean to offend me. Clearly these women have chosen to date a white male and must understand that they have probably not grown up having to understand which of their statements appear racist. However they are now dating a WOC and clearly are making an attempt to bridge those race gaps, therefore I believe instead of banning together and hating on our white boyfriends online, why don’t we teach them what is hurtful and why, what is the background of some of these stereotypes and how they have evolved over the years. That way we aren’t becoming the very thing we are trying to get away from in our interracial relationships because then we couldn’t get mad when they turn around and create a #Dearblackgirlfriend 

Social Rant for the day, check! 

#DearWhiteboyfriend , #LoveyourWOC

❤ Kelsi Rae 

 

 

Damn, that girl has nice hair!

This post will probably make me say, ” you shouldn’t judge people like that” ” so lets just get that out of the way, well no I probably shouldn’t jude people like this, but I do, and I have accepted that so you can too.So do you ever look at a girl and thing, Damn she has nice hair, I wonder if it is real, or how she got that style? Well I do that ALL the time, every time i see another woman of color with well hair. I do it with girls with TWA and think, dang i am jealous that she can rock that so well! I do it with short relaxed hair and think< ” I miss my short hair maybe I should cut it.” Beautiful curly hair of any lengths makes me wish I stopped relaxing my hair earlier,  twists and locks make me consider those styles at least once week and long straight hair makes me want to cut my stretch and relaxed my hair tomorrow! I recently made a friend with BEAUTIFUL kinky hair, who struggles with wanting to cut it off, and I think if she can hold out on change so can I. I think this hair envy is part of why I am in a constant state of change with my hair, because I want to have ALL of the pretty styles, all of the time! 

Part of me hopes that I am the only girl that does this, and that every one else is so confident with with their beautiful style whatever it may be, but the other part of me hopes that we all suffer from this same problem that we all are wishing for the styles around us, just so that I am not alone! Whichever one it is, I don’t know of a way to escape my hair envy, and so here I am hoping for change daily, and somehow holding out on this change for 6 whole months and now that I have reached this goal,what in the world do I do? 

Here was this weeks look, I have taken to calling it ” Lion hair”

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Why would my hair matter to you?

Well let’s be honest, it might not. You may be the girl that has their hair mastered, everyone is jealous of you and asks you how you get your hair that perfect. And we all know those girls, the girls we wondered if they just wake up that way, or if they spend hours staring at the mirror hoping that by some miracle their hair will look good that day like the rest of us. Or you might not care about my hair because you are a more laid back girl than I could ever hope to be and you are fine waking up and letting your beautiful hair do whatever it is going to do that day and rock it. 

But you may be a girl that is hoping that someone out there is going through the same journey with their hair, ever- looking for that person that shares in their triumphs and disasters when it comes to their hair. If you are that girl, my hair might matter to you. Because truly, I am still that girl. I will finish this post and then search the internet for someone that has a tip I can use for my wash day this week. Or some miracle to add to my wash day routine that will help eliminate the shedding i have been having the last couple weeks. And I am here to share those stories with others. Hoping that someone else will benefit from my journey, and that maybe someone will happen across it and help me. Sharing my daily hair struggles helps me maintain an “eye on the prize attitude” with my hair. . . So now the HAIR OF THE WEEK!  

As I shared last week I bought and sewed clip in hair extensions, I never got around to sharing a photo of them so I guess, better late than never, right? Image This photo was about a week and a had ago. I lve my clip ins but I have been running into some hair care problems since wearing them. in order to wear these clip ins, as you can see I have to straighten my 22 week post hair in order to blend the textures, I am unsure if this is the cause or if it is the hairfinity which I finished my 30 day supply last week,( review to follow)  or if it is simply because i am 22 weeks post and my hair is becoming week.  But I have noticed a large increase in shedding over the last month or so. Enough that I am concerned for my hair health. 

So as a result I am returning to my old hair routine which means no heat, and bye bye hair extensions. But I am finding I am falling in love with my natural hair that is coming in and returning to this routine has not been a problem for me, this week I did a twist out and I love the texture my new growth provides at the base. I discovered I have no “selfless: from this week, so here is a picture of my boyfriend and me( correct grammar) from our trip to Seatlle last week, that sort of shows the texture of my hair. Image

 

This love affair with my new growth is leading me to the tried and true question. . . at 22 weeks post am i long term stretching or transitioning? But that is a question for another week. 

For now just taking my hair one day at a time. Until next time 

❤ Kelsi Rae 

What to do, what to do at 20 weeks post relaxer?

Well, as I have stated before I am a self proclaimed hair addict this commonly comes out as extreme changes for my hair at least a couple times a year. However this year I am really trying to keep my hair healthy and growing for the entire year, which extremely limits the amount of changes I can do to my hair. My goal to stretch my relaxer for six months is coming along nicely, I am currently at 20 weeks post with about 2 1/2 inches of new growth and loving the progress I have made. I routinely where my hair in twists and twist outs, but after a few months that is BORING me. The last two weeks have been a major struggle for me to not chop, dye, mame, or dread my hair. I haven’t found anything to ease my change-itis, so today, I gave in and made a change. I went for the least “invasive” way to change my look, something I have never had before, clip-in extensions and so far I LOVE IT. I made them myself with weft human hair from Sally’s beauty supply. I just moved this week and so today instead of unpacking I was sitting on my floor sewing on my clips and measuring my head, typical junkie behavior, huh? I went with 14 inch remy hair and i love it, I have since put it up, so pictures to come later, but it satisfises my compulsion for change and maintains my hair goals for growing out my hair. 

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I started taking Hairfinity about 2 weeks ago and I have noticed some good results so far, I will report more once my 30 day supply is up. However today I noticed an increased about of shedding during my wash day routine, and I mean a lot more shedding, I can’t decide if this is due to being 20 weeks post relaxer and my new growth tangling and my hair weakening over the line of demarcation, or a side effect of the hairfinity. So I will keep taking it and see how next wash day goes. 

To end a story from my week: We have  had tornados here this week and so my students and I have been heading down to the basement almost everyday this week to “shelter and place” from the tornados, have you ever sat in a cramped over heated hallway trying to explain this to 12 special needs children, ya probably not. Well let’s just say it is no picnic, but everything can turn amusing when you look over and one student has another in a headlock while they are supposed to have their head between their knees and when you ask why they respond, ” Keshi, the tornado.” At least we look out for each other. 

Well have a wonderful week! Thats all in my hair crazed world for now! 

❤ Kelsi Rae 

You only wash your hair once a week?

Does this question drive you as crazy as it does me? But not as much as the look that comes with it. Yes I only wash my hair once a week maybe you should try it. That is one thing that has not changed since I have started my hair journey, I only wash my hair every week to two weeks depending on the style. My wash days are Tuesday, simply because it is the only day of the week that I have time to sit and go through my hair routine. . . which is

1) I pre-poo with a hot oil treatment for 45 minutes to an hour, Depending on the week I alternate between olive oil an olive oil and egg mixture and coconut oil( my favorite of all the oils) 

2) Rinse out and co-wash, I only shampoo my hair about every two months or when I feel build up. And condition. 

3) Towel dry for 30 minutes and detangle, with my lovely fingers, I have stopped combing and brushing my hair. And apply leave ins, I apply coconut oil, it’s a ten keratin treatment, and chi serum, and john Frieda smoothing treatment. 

4) Style, I am constantly bored! And change my style a lot, finding styles I like without using heat has proven to be quite the problem. This week I am a fan of the flat twists, but not small ones I have been doing two large twists around my head  ImageImage

 

I then have been rocking a twist out for a few days before my next wash day. This has been working as a protective style and a cute look for work. 

Well that was my wash day this week,  I will check in again next week, as my journey continues, and I hope yours does too. 

I have ordered Hairfinity online this week and will write a review after a month of use. Next week is my monthly progress check, and I can’t wait to see how it goes. 

Well that’s all for now 

❤ Kelsi Rae 

Really, what even is a hair journey?

About five months ago now when I stumbled across Jen and Just Grow Already, this question was a serious problem for me, what is this girl talking about a healthy hair journey doesn’t your hair just grow? Boy was I wrong, and I am glad I have taken the time to invest in making my hair healthy and watching it grow.

The first time I told my boyfriend I was going to start a hair journey he looked at me like I grew a second head and continues to be confused by my wash day rituals and constant attempts to find new styles that don’t involve heat.Because, I Love heat! For years it was my best friend, smooth out my kinky hair and make me fit in just a little bit more with my high school friends who could all easily run their fingers through their hair. And during this time I just believed my hair just didn’t grow past arm pit length, I had no idea that this was a common problem for other women out there.  So finding hair styles that involve no heat has been one of my biggest challenges. I have tried twists, and flat twists and rollers sets( one of my favorites) I have tried wash and go, which worked for about the first month post relaxer, but at almost three months post finding new methods is my biggest challenge. So every week on wash day I get on youtube and look up ” transitioning hair styles.” The women of YouTube have become some of my best friends and mentors and I hope to help walk through this journey with those of you out there who like me, see this hair journey as a foreign country you are happy to take up residence in in order to reach your goals.

So what are my goals:

1)I hope to have balanced hair, protein and moisture levels ( something I am still learning about) 

2)  My first goal is to reach bra strap length, long term goal mid back length. 

3) I hope to stretch my relaxer for six months or 36 weeks. 

Simple goals to start with, I am currently at shoulder length and at 14 weeks post relaxer.(picture to come) You will find I am not exactly traditional with some parts of this process, I have not been consistent with protective styles, I enjoy showing off my hair and as long as I don’t see a marked increase in breakage I will continue to wear my hair freely. I do not wrap my hair in a silk scarf at night, I do sleep on a silk pillow case but I get a head ache both from the scarf and from my boyfriends over a head wrap. I cross wrap my hair or use flat twists at night. These are just a few of my quirks as you will see. I hope to show that some of these things are not needed for everyone’s journey. 

Well that’s all I’ve got for the day. I hope you stop by as I work my way through this journey from pretty much the beginning, and I will enjoy sharing those steps with you. 

Next week I hope to share my wash day, show off my progress so far and the things I have found that work for me, see ya then. 

❤ Kelsi Rae 

How did my hair take over my life?

Hey all, first off, lets take some time to focus on something besides our hair shall we. I know thats difficult for me too, I am a self proclaimed hair-addict. But a little bit about me, below the neckline, the name is Kelsi I am a 23 year old grad student. I am half white and half black, and my hair reflects that. I have a long term boyfriend for the terms of this blog it is important to know that he is white, and my hair becomes a very funny part of our relationship. I am starting grad school in the summer for special education, I am just going to warn you now I will probably share the occasional teaching story with you, don’t worry I will try and keep them funny.

But now why am I here, because I am obsessed with my hair care, but how did I get there?

I am from Northern Colorado, if you know anything about that part of the state there are not a lot of resources to learn about taking care of ethic hair. My mom raised me as a single parent she is Caucasian and had absolutely no idea how to deal with this little girls ever growing afro. Multiple times during my youth she opted for cutting all of my hair off in order to solve this problem. But as I grew she tried to learn about the different styles for my hair from braids to weaves and beyond, however I was not allowed to relax or color my hair until I was 18. As a result whenI turned 18 I did both of these things, with no real knowledge of the affects this would have on my hair

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.   throughout college my hair was a constantly evolving masterpiece on my head. I loved my hair, but did not care for my hair. I had weaves put in,and became obsessed with the color red, thanks a lot Rihanna. So by the time my senior year in college came around my hair was a mess, so I started looking at hair forums online and decided I would take the plunge  and b/c.Image That was a about a 73 weeks ago to be precise and I am just gonna put it out there people, THE BIG CHOP IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. I  hated it, after about a month I missed my hair. So I began wearing front lace wigs for about two months until my hair was long enough to play with again. I would have continued to wear wigs but 99 percent of the people in my life are white and wigs are a very funny thing for them to understand, the explanation was not worth it. So after the B/C disaster I began reading the blog Just Grow Already, and became a hair addict. I obsessively read her blog weekly checking every wash day and the beautiful bun inspirations she posts inspiring me to both not cut and continue my hair journey. So now I am here working my way through the urge to mess with my hair one day at a time. You are becoming my accountability partners, welcome to this journey with me.