All About the Trail. . . No Treadmill . . .( Lessons from Running in the Park)

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0) It is AWKWARD! . . At first. . . you are going out where other people can see you, putting on your running shoes and trying to run.. trying being the operative word. . but it gets better and then you stretch farther, before you know it you are that girl doing her BURPEES and push ups on the park bench where everyone can see and some random guy in a truck is going to honk and whistle at your ass in those same running pants you weren’t comfortable in 1 month ago. .

And ok ok I know objectifying women is bad, but when that man honks at your fine looking ass, that is doing those squat jumps on the side of the road. . . take it as a win.

1) I am slow. . ..

I mean SLOW. . . but that doesn’t stop me I keep putting one foot in front of the other!

2) The distance around the park is the same for everyone! I may be slower than molasses but when i make it all the way around that park I have ran 3.2 miles just like the guy that passed me way back on mile 1 that I never saw again.

3) Girl that looks like this just may kill her, the hunched back turtle run. . Girl I feel you! But look at you, you crawled out of bed this morning at the butt crack of dawn just like the rest of us and there you go. . .you are running! You Go Girl!

4) Fast or Slow we are all in some sort of sick club. We somehow have tricked our bodies into thinking this is fun and now we are in this together. When you pass that same elderly man on the same curve around the park everyday you do the half nod and you both know, you got this. When you see the mom pushing the double stroller and you think hell I can barely drag my own weight up this hill let alone another human beings and all of their stuff! But you know, you are both pulling for each other and together you got this.

5) Not everyday is race day. So yeah some people on this 3 mile loop may have to run that loop 12 times to train for their upcoming race. And some of us are just barely making around 1 time. But you know what, those people running 12 times around all started somewhere, they may have started long ago, but everyone of them made that first 3 mile loop and felt like a total badass just like us.

6) YOU ARE A TOTAL BADASS!

Let’s just be clear the person that ran that 1 loop or half a loop or that first mile you are a badass! just as much as that man that runs a marathon for a warm up! So strut your stuff and let the world know.

7) Treadmill running is just not the same. . . and I don’t mean in difficulty, running on a treadmill makes it seem like some sort of competition compared to the person next to you, out on this trail every more feels like a community, a silent, crunching by community. You are connected to all the other people that have ran on this same crunchy trail!

8) It isn’t all about speed or distance. choose one! When I first started running I thought I had to run fast and run far, and for about 2 months I couldn’t run any farther or faster than I could when I started, I was trying to do too much at once. So I started concentrating on distance and not speed. . see number 2 (distance is all the same) a 12 minute mile is the same distance as a 6 minute mile.So I started increasing my distance weekly and am now I can run a whole 2 miles farther than I could during those first 2 months.

9) It isn’t all about the scale ..  I have lost about 30 pounds since January 2015 and that seems like a huge deal to me! But really the fact that I can run 3.5 miles without keeling over is so much more important. You may not see a huge difference on the scale all the time, but hell you are getting stronger, faster and those are the things that matter, the scale and the weight will come!

10) You don’t have to be in LuLu lemon or some other fancy running clothes to be a runner. If you are putting your feet out there and moving you are a runner. Your clothing doesn’t dictate that. But I will go with the splurge on the running shoes theory. Mostly because your feet will thank you!

11) Everyday is a fresh start. Ok yesterday’s run sucked, it was half as far and took twice as long as it was supposed to. Or you had to walk before the schedule walk time. But today is a new day and you are gonna kill it. And guess what even with yesterdays run as your starting point . . .YOU ARE STILL A BADASS!

❤ Kelsi Rae

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Dat 12 minute Mile Doe!

Any of you ever play a sport in high school?

You would come to try outs and on the first day a prerequisite to even being considered for the team was to run a 12 minute mile. I remember laughing thinking that was such a joke, that who couldn’t run a 12 minute mile. Come on, I could walk a 12 minute mile.. . at this point in my life I was easily running at 7 minute mile. . .  hating every second of it but easily finishing in 7 minutes. I couldn’t imagine that I would ever run slower than that… ok I was also a 17 year old athlete at this point but God was I wrong.

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Now here I am at 24, attempting to start running for sport for the first time in my life, running was always a means to an end before, I had to run to make the volleyball team, I had to run to get through the drill, I had to run in order to save the ball, but I never had to run to run, I never wanted to run to run… I hated running I would go about a half a mile and my chest would start to hurt and I would start to double over, I swear my collarbone would start to collapse and I would stop.. I hated running.

Today I ran the distance of a 5k, 3.22 miles to be exact so more than a 5k and I probably could have kept going. The key to this was to not be afraid to slow down. Go at my pace, let the people  that are faster go around me and instead of resenting them, cheer them on, we are all struggling to be a part of this same club, no matter what place in the journey we are at we are all moving.

I will probably never be able to run a 7 minute mile again but I can run 3+ miles without stopping, I do enjoy running, I do get up everyday and look forward to my run for the day, I have run 5 times a week for a month now. And there is something to be said about that, there are victories in every step that you take, when you tell yourself to just make it to that tree, just run a little farther, finish the mile, the song, the next ten steps those are victories.

So now when I go out and I run a 12 minute mile I am proud, and know there is no way in hell I could walk a 12 minute mile, but I can run one, and I can run two and three at that same pace, I havent felt my collar bone collapse or explode this whole time.

So go, get out there on the running highway that are park trails, if you are near me, it is Wash Park and the Cherry Creek trail, but no matter where you are I am sure you know the runners highway, the place that is intimidating, get out there, and cheer on the fast people and the people who just like you look scared as hell to even be running.

Because really when it comes down to it, it is all about Dat _____ minute mile doe!

Whereever you at that run is on fleek gurl!

❤ Kelsi Rae

The Runners Bargain

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One weeks difference! A week ago 2 miles was the farthest I had run since high school, and one week later I ran almost a full mile more!
One weeks difference! A week ago 2 miles was the farthest I had run since high school, and one week later I ran almost a full mile more!

Yesterday Mr. said to me, you are a runner now. While I don’t know that this is true I have been running. We moved two blocks from one of the nicest parks in Denver, Wash Park and I was determined to become a Park Runner, not just a one or two day a week runner, no a 4 or 5 day a week runner. So today I completed my 5th run in the park. I did 4 last week and then today I did my 5th and first one of this week.

When I started running I could barely run three minutes on a treadmill and last Monday I completed both my longest and fastest run yet, I ran 2 miles in around 25 minutes. Ok a 12 minute mile may not seem like much but it was everything to me, and it still feels good, I don’t have goals to become a fast runner, just a runner someone who can sustain running for a prolonged period of time.

I am getting there, and I have found that running is a mental bargain, every half a mile or so when I start to feel like my lungs are giving out or my legs are going to collapse I look forward to the next tree, bend in the trail, stoplight or any marker I can make in my mind and tell myself, just keep going till you get there, and if I can make it there it is another bargain to keep going just a little farther.

I have found that as long as I keep bargaining I can keep going, and then when I do need to walk for just a little while, I can bargain my way into running just a little more. I am not rewarding myself with anything except more running, but that running is starting to feel good.

Hell I still feel like I am dying but it is a joy, I am happy that my body keeps going, that when I see someone else running on the “Runners highway” that is Wash Park I feel like I am part of their club.

So what can you bargain yourself into? What ways can you make your life better by simply saying, I can go a little farther… how can we find bargains in everyday life that will allow us to make the progress we need in order to be the best we can be.

❤ Kelsi Rae

Your legs are not giving out, your head is giving up. . . keep going!

This commercial has been coming on frequently as I binge watch America’s Next Top Model this week. And everytime I think the same thing. . . “That is totally me.”

The girl that walks into looking for that middle seat, because clearly it is the only acceptable one, the front is just much to exposed but in the back I could get lost. The girl at her first day of yoga just hoping it is going to somehow make me better, less stressed, more peaceful, stronger, more in tune with my yogic breathing whatever that means. The girl who is running, if you can call the turtle like crawl, that is probably slower than some peoples walk running. But Every time you get to the end as the sweat pours down your head and you think I did it

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 I find myself repeating this mantra over and over again during these times.

Especially last Sunday when I decided that for my first Yoga class in like 3 years I would attend Yoga Tone, having no idea wha that entailed. And when I say first class in three years, 3 years ago I was attending beginning Yoga at the University rec center where frequently football players would join and fall asleep in the middle of class, not exactly the most difficult of yoga times.

So into yoga tone i went grabbed my 3 and 5 pound weights, Inner monologue – Weights why do I need weights for yoga isn’t this supposed to be peaceful. 

Walked past the “Silence in the studio sign” and Oh God I am not peaceful enough for this  and rolled out my rented mat sat down, silently of course and waited for class to start. All was well until we busted out the weights about halfway through the class and I thought I was going to die, stomach churning, legs shaking, brain screaming kind of pain, but in a class of 5 you can’t just stop.

” Your legs are not giving out your head is giving up. . . your legs are not giving out your head is giving up . . . your legs are not giving out your head is giving up. . . ” Repeat this for about 30 minutes and I have made it through YogaTone,

Needless to say I did not come out of it feeling more at peace and in tune with my Yogic Breathing, But I was stronger, and more sore, for the next three days or so. But stronger and I could feel it.

It felt good enough to go back, the next day, and the next day. Not to yogatone specifically that I need at least a week break from but to a class.

I hope that if you are like me and fear looking like an idiot or like someone will criticize you for being new to _____ insert exercise here, that you will do it. Fight that voice in your head that says you can’t whether it is a mental block or physical get out there, do all that you can, find the time in your busy schedule even if it is just 15 minutes to move. Find that yogic breathing, or get out there and hit something ( boxing is my favorite workout) because as much as we think people care, they don’t have time to judge you when we are all so busy being self conscious about ourselves. So do it for you. . whatever it is you have been thinking about. . . You will be better for it.

I can feel the burn in my legs, the same as when I run and I can feel myself, my mind and my body getting better. So thank you Nike I am not sure I will start buying for clothes or shoes but I know that I am . . .

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Throw out your scale and celebrate your success!

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A major component of the Whole30 that has been difficult for me is the concept of not weighing yourself for the entire 30 days. I enjoy this concept not because I want to stop weighing myself but because of the reason given in It All Starts With Food, the makers of the Whole30 don’t care if you loose weight, this is not a weight loss program, it is a program to become more healthy and aware of the food we are putting in our body, And yes as a result of this you will loose weight, but this is also not always reflected on the scale, sometimes you are loosing inches off of your waist and not moving in pounds because you are gaining muscle. I have been working hard to focus on the weigh I feel and my body composition rather than simply the number on the scale tells me.

With that said it is day 28 of my Whole 30, we are finished on Sunday and I have some major( for me) non scale victories I would like to share before Monday when I jump on the scale and share with all of you the actual numbers, but first forget the scale lets see what has happened in the last 30 days!

First of all I have been trying to “become a runner” for about 4 months now, I started out walking for a minute and than running for a minute, at this point in January I found myself staring at the count down from about 30 seconds on, which means I could only run for 30 seconds comfortably. By the time I started the Whole30 I was able to run for about 3 minutes, still pretty uncomfortably, but I could do it.

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This happened last week! Over 2 miles in 30 minutes!  I accomplished this by running for 10 whole minutes!! Then walking for 2, running for 5 minutes and walking for 5 and then running for 1 or 2. It was not even it did not follow a prescribed running plan, but it was amazing to me! I probably could have kept going after 10 minutes in the beginning too!

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Then there are these pieces of clothing! The white shirt on the left is a medium and it is a littler loose! I am also wearing my favorite pants in that picture, they are way too big for me now, I am waiting to buy new ones next week.

The dress on the left was a dress I purchased last summer and then rarely wore it because I always felt like I was just busting out of its seams. While I still would like to look a little better in it. I can see my curves again and I was comfortable wearing it out of the house.

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And lastly there is this! NO MUFFIN TOP! See ya later flab! I could have taken a picture of a pair of pants that were slightly big on me before and by week two they were literally clown pants that I had to get rid of but I threw them out already.

I am very excited to see what the scale says on Monday, but looking back over the past 30 days I am more than happy with these non-scale victories!

Don’t always focus on the numbers, we are so much more than numbers. The Whole30 has taught me a new outlook on my body composition and the food that is playing a role in that. Even though it has been hard, the last week seemingly the hardest (surprising for me too) it has been worth it!

Mr. and I are going to transition into what I fondly call Pretty Much Paleo after a cheat week from our whole30, I will let you know how it goes, but can’t go back to how things were before now!

What non-scale victories do you cherish? What was the first piece of clothing that made you stop and think “this doesn’t fit” or when you could put on those “skinny” jeans or dress or skirt or shirt and it fit?

We all need those small motivators to get us through a lifestyle change!

❤ Kelsi Rae

Whole 30: Week 1 Trials and Celebrations

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What we ate for day 1-6 of the Whole 30, this was made before I read that smoothies were not recommended for breakfast so that was changed and deleted from the following weeks meal plans.

When I checked in on Day 2, I was in solidly in the hangover phase of my Whole30 and was not very happy with it at all. That passed and for days 4 and 5 I was pretty good, I was happy with the meals I was making and didnt really feel like I was missing anything from last week.

Well maybe I was a little bit more in the Kill all things  mode on day 5 than I would like to admit, it was a Friday night and Mr. H and I had made dinner that was delicious and sat down on the couch to watch a movie ( after eating dinner at the table sans electronics to give the meal its due- this has been a difficult shift, I grew up eating my meals in front of the TV, when I was in high school there was a TV in the kitchen/dining room and my mom and I would make dinner and then sit and watch our favorite shows while we ate, and that has carried over into my adult life, Mr. H and I often cook dinners and put on a movie to enjoy) But this night we sat down to watch a movie and nothing could make me happy, I was uncomfortable, I didn’t want to watch that movie, I wanted to go to bed at 8:30 an then complained when he didn’t want to come with me, I was a hot mess. But I did not want to admit that to anyone!

Then Day 6 hit, Day 6 happen to fall both on a weekend, and about three days before was supposed to start my period. And all I could think about for most of the day was  CAKE!  I cannot say for sure if this was a result of the Whole30 or of my uterus rebelilng against me and my health goals as it does every month.I mean I love cake I always have, if you want to meet a sugar addict if there ever was one, look no farther you found her. I never had a problem with my sugar addiction until recently, until I looked at the scale the week before I went wedding dress shopping and realized I had gained 35 pounds since I was in my best friends wedding two years ago. But this Saturday I wanted cake more than anything, I had done pretty good the first 5 days without it, but on Saturday I am used to more laid back day, I am not busy busy busy from the time I eat breakfast till lunch time and normally this is our snacking day, we eat a late breakfast and then a late lunch and munch on something (popcorn, ice cream, croissants from the coffee shop) until a late dinner and a drink. So needless to say Saturday was rough day for me, but I did it!

I got through Saturday without a slip we even ate out on Saturday night, and even though I felt like a d-bag making all the changes to the menu items we did it! Another Si Se Puede moment!

I am now officially a week into my Whole30! We went grocery shopping today and still spent more than I would like. . if anyone has any good tips for Whole30 on a budget I would LOVE them! We did the starting in the meat section and working our way out, I think its just that we are cooking at home more and using more meat (we were a fairly boring meat family before mostly turkey and chicken) that it is adding up. It also doesn’t help that Mr. H and I aren’t living together yet,so we can’t buy in bulk or create a pantry of stored food it is like we are starting over every week! Soon this will change. . .in May hopefully and I cannot wait!

I can already tell a difference in the way my clothes fit, today I put on the pants that used to be tight on me, ( pre January when I started loosing weight before the Whole30) the fit well after I started working out and eating more healthy in January, I was down about 11 pounds when I started the whole30 but today they were laughable, they were HUGE,! I felt like I could have curled up inside of them and fit better, or fit a small human in them with me just to make them tight, Mr. H said the butt looked like a saggy diaper, not exactly what you want to hear from your fiancé but hey he meant it in love so YAY for #nonscalevictories!

Well cheers to week 2. . this week I am going to try Salmon for the first time, Mr. H loves it an so I figured now is a good time to branch out and try it so Salmon with coconut cream here we come, don’t worry I am making him try brussel sprouts too!

Today is filled with Sunshine, coffee shops with Kombucha on tap, house hunting and meal prep, who could ask for a better Sunday?

Cheers to all the Whole30 goers out there, Si Se Puede!

❤ Kelsi Rae

Why I am thankful for today’s TERRIBLE run!

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There is a park about 1 mile from my house, and it is about a mile around.

So my goal is to run 1 mile there, a mile around and a mile home, that is the goal! So far I have made it a mile there and a mile home!

That is at a snails pace and doing intervals of 3 minutes on, 2 minutes off, the way home is all down hill so I do 5 minutes on and 3 minutes off on the way home.

NOT TODAY! Today I was huffing and puffing wheezing about two minutes in. My normal snails pace began to resemble a crawl, but I kept going, even when that toned girl passed me, looking like she was gliding on clouds as she ran by me. I kept going, it felt like we were the part of the same club now!

I kept running! I decided I was going to start running about 3 months ago, I started running inside and ventured outside about 3 weeks ago. With the snow the outside running has been on and off, but lets be honest it terrifies me to be out there on the street where people can see me all red faced and puffy not looking at all like a “runner” in any sense of the word. I keep having to remind myself that I am a runner simply because I am running!

Everyday I have to get up and try again. I have become obsessed with fitgrams, I love fitteachers and mrsfitteacher for inspiration!

So no matter what you are starting, running, eating more healthy, having positive thoughts or something completely unrelated just keep going and remember everyday is a day to start again.

❤ Kelsi Rae

I hate running, and I am addicted to cake!

So I am gonna run a 10k!

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This is the plan I am going to follow. It starts out slow and still gives you plenty of rest days during the week. I will use these rest days for things like, boxing class. and when I have night class ( on those days I do a quick at home Yoga routine.) I also am trying this 7 minute work out app every morning so that will be in addition to this training as well. (http://7minuteworkout.us/) This app has you do 12 exercises for 30 seconds each with 10 seconds of rest in between. I do it in the morning to help me wake up and get ready for the day. It is also only 7 minutes so I can work it into my morning routine, but it definitely gets your heart rate going and I can feel my muscles working.

Great plan right, well we will see. This year at the beginning of January, I set very loose goals, loose weight for the wedding, etc. Last year I set very specific goals: Attend boxing classes twice a week for 6 months. And I was easily successful at the latter of the two. ( It really helped that I feel in love with boxing and I continue to attend classes once a week a year later). So as my goals were quickly falling apart this year, I decided I needed to set a more specific fitness and weight loss goal. Now I am not setting a specific number of pounds I would like to loose. ( But hopefully it will be somewhere around 15 to 20) But I am setting specific healthy eating and fitness goals.

For the healthy eating I am starting out small and going to try doing clean eating recipes and meal plans for two weeks and see how it goes. I am nervous about the time commitment that is involved in cooking all my meals each week. But I came across the awesome blog, Broke and Bougie (http://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/p/about-broke-bougie.html) And she shares easy and hopefully delicious recipes that are made for clean eating. I also love that her blog is very open about the fact that she loves to drink and such, she just seems like a fun gal.  So here I am in all my Type A glory making a weekly eating plan. If I am gonna stick to something I have to have a plan . . . did I saw I was type A already? You can find my rough draft of a meal plan and workout schedule here.  Meal Plan Week .  From what I have found it seems the most important components of beginer clean eating are 1) Think green: fill your plate fill as many veggies as you can first, don’t plan your meal around a meat. 2: Forget the processor eat whole grains and as minimally processed foods as possible. Think steamed grilled or raw! 3) Eat smaller meals more times a day. For this reason I have incorporated 2 planned snacks into my days so that I am not going hours between meals and my metabolism is still engaged, and most importantly I am NOT starving myself.

I hope to reset my addiction to cake. I am not kidding when I say I am an addict, given I doubt this addiction is to the cake, it is to the processed, refined sugar. But it manifests itself most often in eating cupcakes or cakes to myself. I am not going to try and cut sweets out of my diet all together. Like Broke and Bougie states she is keeping booze around, I am keeping some sugar around. #sorrynotsorry.

So then I figured out I will hit the store after class tonight and be ready to start my plan! So now for the fitness goals, a 10k. why would someone who hates running, and I mean HATES running, I find myself wheezing, with sore knees about 5 minutes in and I am ready to call it a day and go pick up some chips and guac. I mean I love working out, I just hate running. So why did I pick a 10k. Well I went on a 5 mile hike yesterday with one of my most inspirational friends. She is inspirational in so many more ways, but one of them is that at 38 she ran her first marathon last year, and not just a road marathon, she ran the Moab Trail Marathon. 26 miles over hills and rocks in beautiful terrain, but come on, I doubt you would see it And while that would be enough to inspire anyone, the best part is that when I met her last January, she had a hip injury and couldn’t run at all. So she literally went couch to marathon in 11 months. Now here I am like, well there is no way on God’s green earth I want to run a marathon. But I have seen those wonderful couch to 10k workouts on pinterest and my other friend said she would run the Boulder Boulder and Color Run with me. So I guess here it goes I am off and running ( I hope).

So May 25th 2015 here we come.http://www.bolderboulder.com/. !

Hopefully this will kickstart and help me maintain my wedding fitness plans. So that where Ben whisks me away too for our honeymoon ( where I better be able to wear a bikini) I will rock it. It is time to get back to feeling and looking good this year.

I will try and keep you updated as much I remember, lets go for bi-weekly updates. Fingers crossed. I am also going to take some “before” pictures tonight so hopefully there will be enough progress for “after” pictures in the future.

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Hugs. Have a great week!

❤ Kelsi Rae

The bad bride blues. . .

So I think I am a bad bride.

I don’t love the spotlight, I don’t want to tell everyone every detail of the wedding and gush about the flowers and the colors and the dress. I love my fiance and I am so excited about our wedding. And its not like I am not on top of the planning, because believe me I am. I have the venue booked, the flowers picked out, dress ideas up the wazoo, the menu created, but I just want to keep all of that to myself. I share it with my fiance, my mom ( she is paying for it after all), and my best friend ( sometimes I even forget to include her.) And that is all. . .

People will find out I am engaged and immediately want to know all of the details, this seems to happen more to my fiance though, girls ask him all sorts of questions, and like really he is a guy he knows a lot but why as him about the wedding. But they want to know all of the details, I just give them a look like please random physical therapist that I just met, no I don’t want to share every detail with you.

Even people that I am close to and gladly share the information with when they ask, I generally don’t volunteer the information without prompting. I just feel like this is my thing, I get the pleasure of planning a party that is just about me and my man, and why do you need to know all of the details now, 8 months in advance? Most likely you are not even invited so you won’t see any of this executed. Now I love a good wedding pinterest board as much as the next girl, I think I am just uncomfortable with the direct attention that I receive as a result of this new found status in my life. My future father in- law so nicely reminded me that this day will be all about ME! Oh god, I thought to myself.

Then we took engagement pictures last weekend, two hours of a camera in my face and I was so uncomfortable. . but according to #theknot, that is supposed to prepare me for 8 hours of photos of me on the big day . . well #FAIL!

Speaking of The Knot, they have things on their wedding checklist I can’t even imagine, having the time, money, or desire to do for my wedding. They have suggestions like start a pampering week, getting a massage, manicure and pedicure ( ok this one I might do) hair done. . all weeks before the wedding for a trial run and then do it again. I don’t even think I will trust someone else to touch my hair the day of my wedding, but that is more a result of my hair- crazed ways than anything else. But I have no time to spend weeks focusing on “pampering” myself. Will I look good, yes, but that does not take weeks of preparation. Is this something women do on a regular basis? Maybe this is why my wedding won’t even cost 1/4 of the average cost of a wedding in America which is over 25,000 dollars!!! That is the cost of a new car, that is over double what my future hubby just spent for a car. That is ridiculous, who is paying for these weddings, I get anxiety thinking about the few thousand dollars people are dishing out for mine I couldn’t imagine spending four times that much, what do you even spend all that money on?

With all of the pinereset and instagrams dedicated to weddings and brides and engagements I feel like I am the only one that feels this way, do all women automatically crave attention when they get engaged? Do we all become a little narcissistic for 8 months of our lives? Is there a secret bridezilla ready to spend daddy’s, mommy’s, hubby’s and her own money on center pieces and massages, and the 1000 dollar wedding shoes I used to crave so much, inside every woman. Maybe I just haven’t let my bridezilla out yet, we will see when she surfaces over the next 8 months . .

Signed . . . the bad bride

❤ Kelsi Rae

No, your grandma cannot come to my wedding!

So I am getting married next August in the most beautiful chapel that I have ever seen. It has been my dream to get married there for a few years since I learned the history of the chapel. Give me a good history and I will fall in love with most things, and this one has a great history.IMG_0062

It was build in the late 1800’s and as a result it is the size of an 1800’s chapel that means that it sits about 85 people and we are going to push it to 90 for our wedding. This means that my ceremony guest list is very exclusive :). But apparently people think they can invite anyone they want, including themselves and grandparents. So due to this limited size we are not allowing plus ones at the ceremony.

Since becoming engaged I have discovered there are two types of people when they hear the news, (these people exclude your close friends and family that display a normal level of excitement)the people who are like oh congratulations but give you the side eye like they are not super happy for you, thats fine I don’t need their happiness. I prefer those people to the second type of people, the second type of people,  these are the people that maybe you used to be really close with, or you were coworkers a few years back. The people that haven’t talked to you in about a year, these people become overly excited and begin asking for all the wedding details, the location, the date, the colors, what is your dress going to look like, way more information than you were wanting to start announcing when you updated your “life event” on facebook.

They do these large show of excitement of feigning friendship in order to be able to end the conversation with the epic statement, ” I will be looking for the invitation.”

Well that is awfully forward of you. . lady that I have not seen or heard from since you moved in with your boyfriend despite the numerous attempts I have made to hang out. Oh you will be expecting the invitation, to the couple that cannot make the 45 minute trip for anything even birthdays are you sure you will be able to do that for a wedding.  What, no you may not bring oyur Grandmother that lives in Arizona that I have met once to my wedding. T

hank you for assuming that I need to use my limited seats on you and spending money to feed you and not inviting someone that has probably seen my in the last 6 months. Maybe someone that even knew I was going to get engaged. I have discovered that this is the most annoying aspect of  the wedding planning so far. I hope these people don’t become to upset when over the next 9 months that they continue to not speak to me that they don’t receive a wedding invite.

I am assuming that the level of friendship will not change before the wedding, and will not change after the wedding, so really what am I hurting by not inviting them. My great aunt that my mom wanted me to invite, that I will concede to, Great Aunt, here is your seat at my wedding. However to the “I will be waiting on the invitation” friends I am sorry, you will be waiting a long time for that invite.

#isthisevenmywedding?

#becomingaHarris

– One in a million Budget Brides,

❤ Kelsi Rae